Divorce is one of the most stressful experiences a person can go through, and it’s important to take good care of yourself if you are in the midst of this type of crisis. Taking time for yourself will help, as will seeing support from friends and family members. You may find cleaning out clutter will help as well. Give yourself permission to get angry with your ex and the situation, and consider joining a support group. Forgive yourself and your former spouse for the wrongs committed against you (real or imagined) so you can let them go and move on.
Divorcing couples in Connecticut have an alternative to litigation to settling the issues between them. In the collaborative divorce model, each person is represented by a lawyer and get help from coaches to come to an agreement out of court about financial and custody matters. This kinder approach allows divorcing couples to work together to come up with a solution that will work for them, as opposed to facing each other across a courtroom. Judges aren’t familiar with what’s best for a particular family; they apply the law as it is written and this approach is less stressful and expensive.
Children, no matter how old they are, have a difficult time when they discover their parents have decided to divorce. Adults also hurt when their parents split up. A pastor learns his parents will end their marriage after more than 40 years, and it hurts. He writes of his pain and grief, and finding grace to get through this difficult point in his life. “Grace always runs downhill, meeting us at the bottom, not the top.” No one is immune from suffering in this life, even those who are called to do God’s work.
No divorce papers have been filed for Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. He has moved on to romance Mila Kunis but Moore has not publicly filed for divorce, nor has she released a statement. Rumors have surfaced that the couple was not legally married, which is why there is no need for formal divorce papers to be filed. The couple separated after Kutcher was caught cheating on the couple’s sixth wedding anniversary. Moore can file or not file for divorce if she chooses, and Kutcher can file for divorce if he wants one, too.