Real Housewives of Beverly Hills stars Adrienne Maloof and Paul Nassif have each filed their own divorce papers. Nassif originally filed for legal separation from his wife on July 30, and has said he wants joint physical and legal custody of the couple’s three children. Both Maloof and Nassif cited irreconcilable differences as the grounds for divorce, and Nassif has also said that his primary focus is on the welfare of his children. It’s difficult to see how two divorce petitions and a bitter fight between the two would benefit anyone in the situation.
An uncontested divorce has the benefits of being cheaper, quicker, and more flexible than asking a judge to rule on how a couple should divide their property. It allows them to end their marriage without having to prove fault, and they can structure the details in a way that makes sense to them, as long as it complies with state law. Judges will follow the letter of the law when making decisions, but will not make rulings which will truly benefit the people involved. A no contest divorce is the better way to go.
The divorce of one’s parents has a profound impact on a person’s life as they grow into adulthood. They may feel as though they have to choose between their parents, and that nothing they do is good enough. Feeling pressured to behave as an adult while still a child is a burden for a young person who is going through adolescence. The worst part for a child of divorce can be the feeling of a lack of closure for the pain, since the child may not have someone he or she can talk to.
Children suffer when their parents divorce, you need to have a plan in place to ensure that they don’t get lost in the shuffle of the proceedings. Talking freely with them about the process should help them, as will making time for them and not forgetting their presence. Parents should always avoid fighting around the children, but always remember to be there for their children. Knowing what should be shared, and what is better left unsaid can be tricky but is an important consideration for every divorcing family to help children going through this major transition.